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A new, very different book...
A Lively Death - lessons from a son in spirit
Why is this book here and available?
Simply because there are things worth saying that may help. All of us who lose someone close to us experience the devastation of grief, but many remain trapped there. I hoped by writing this book, it might help those who want to find a more hopeful, healing path of connection. And to provide company for those who already know these things.
'I’m wondering if there is a silent underground of parents who having lost their children know these things very clearly, but don’t speak of them, because our world demands evidence and rationality. Happily, there is no need for justification in the world of spirit, although there is enormous evidence of the transcending power of love should we seek it. This book is not about proving anything at all, simply that in my experience and that of others, there is much more to our lives and deaths that we can immediately see in this world, and there can be great joy in that for all of us.'
About the Book
A Lively Death tells the story of growth and transformation after a death in the family. Parents and families face a life of despair and relentless sorrow after the death of a child – but it can be different. When Heather Carpenter’s 24-year-old son died in a skateboarding accident, her life changed in an instant; suddenly the ‘bottomless pit of despair’ opened up before her. At the same time, however, she received a gift: she realised she could embrace the wonderful possibility that her son was alive in spirit and reaching out to provide comfort and love. Heather found ways to live with hope, joy and an ongoing connection to her son; and she recounts how the inspirational and healing lessons from her ‘son in spirit’ became her journey to a new transformed life. This book addresses the pain of grief and offers practical strategies for those who may need it.
'What is truly amazing is how life offers you healing, even in the haze of grief. Even a very simple gesture, my hand to my heart, provided warmth and comfort, and in my mind symbolised my love for my son. Simple is important, because that is all you can mange at that time … instead of despair, I had to decide to love. I see now that this in itself was a transforming path.'
This book charts a journey of the heart and of the spirit, and offers hope to those who cherish the belief that love transcends death, and that we are never truly parted from those whom we love. It is a beautifully presented book, with each chapter opening with watercolour vignettes from a local Auckland artist, Dave Gunson.
Published by Wooden Shed (2011)
